Author: starkeycoaching

Starkey Coaching helps Christian moms heal from their past, overcome daily struggles, and rediscover their God-given identity so they can parent with confidence and create a home filled with love, faith, and resilience

Weedy, Rooted, Thoughts

by starkeycoaching, posted in christian, Christian Women, Encouragement for Mom

Look at the roots coming off of the root. 🤣😵‍💫

These evil FRUITLESS raspberry plants took over a flowerbed in my backyard. 😡

For 3 years we kept waiting for berries…none ever came. 😭😭😭

This has been a 6 month process to pull all these stupid things up because they are SO mean and pokey. And when ya get poked real good (through the gardening gloves, FYI) that thorn causes your finger to hurt for days! 😩😣😥

🧠 As I fought with these evil thorns, I thought of Jesus cursing the fig tree! I also realized our minds are a lot like my flowerbed-taken over by weeds.

You let one “weed” in, and those suckers will multiply faster than you can imagine. The roots will have roots, will have roots, AND will have roots.

What weedy thoughts are you allowing in your mind? Be careful to not let them take over.

Taking thoughts captive was a command from the Lord. Not just so that we have another rule, but to keep us safe. If you need help with this, get in touch with me! This is my passion. My specialty! 🙌🏼

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No Sword without the Word?!

by starkeycoaching, posted in christian, Christian Women, Spiritual Warfare

Yesterday morning I woke up with this word from Him, “you can’t have the sword without the Word.”

What is the ONLY method of OFFENSE in the Armor of God?

The sword of the Spirit aka the Word of God! ( Eph 6:10-20) 😱

If you don’t know the Word, you aren’t fully equipped for the biggest lip sync battle of your life against the enemy that wants you miserable and lonely.

This isn’t a Debbie Downer “scare you straight” type of post.

This is a “God gave us what we NEED, and this is how you USE IT” kind of post.

Plug in to the Word so you can always have your sword sharpened. 📕

You can’t have a sword without the WORD! 🗡️

Need help reading the Bible? Fill out this form and I’ll be in touch with the free resources I have!

⚔️ iron sharpens iron

Spring into the New You

by starkeycoaching, posted in christian, Christian Women, Encouragement for Mom

Happy first day of SPRING! 🌷🪻🌻

Did you know “Spring” is called “Spring” because everything “springs” back to life? The animals are out and about, the plants start coming to life. 🤯

What about🫵🏻 YOU!?

Are you going to choose to remain dormant or do you want to spring forth into the new you? 😬

If you feel stuck and unsure how to spring forth into the new you, now is a great time to get with me. 😉😏

I offer several packages & ain’t none of ’em are bad options. 😍

If you’re interested, just fill out this quick form and together we will figure out the plan that will make you bloom! 🌻

#breakingchains #healingjourney #christianmotivation #kingdombusiness #KingdomLiving #bloomwhereyouareplanted #FaithInAction #JesusHeals

Drama or Trauma?

by starkeycoaching, posted in christian, Christian Women

“Omg stop being so dramatic about everything.” 💅🏻

“Don’t tell her. Ya know how she is suuuch a Sensitive Sally.”

Anyone else been called “Sensitive Sally” or is that just me? Maybe it’s some other variation of the word. 🤮🤮🤮

What if it’s…. ✨TrAuMa✨

You ain’t no drama mama, you’ve just had too much trauma!

Ya know what, maybe you ARE a sensitive sally, but ya know what I AIN’T?? 👇🏻😉

Callous and self-centered.

I had this talk with my 9 year old yesterday, “If you don’t go to certain people for advice, then DON’T take their opinions or criticism to heart.” If they don’t have YO BEST INTEREST at HEART, then whoooo kerrrs what they say?!?!

SO MANY deal with this eerrrrry single day. Stop it.

WWJD!! What WOULD Jesus do? Well, I’d say HE is pretty sensitive. Do you think our Heavenly Father bottles up OUR TEARS just because He think a zillion tear-filled jars would look good on His shelf? 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

Orrr, maybe perhaps it’s because we are made in HIS image and HE cries? He KNOWS how WE feel because…HE created us? 👀

Maybe because when Lazarus died, He WEPT. He knew Lazarus was gonna pop right back up in a bit, but still, He WEPT.🤷🏻‍♀️

So, stop listening to the haters. 🙅🏻‍♀️

If you need an encouraging group to surround and uplift you, and cry with you rather than roll their eyes at you, I provide that place.👩🏻‍🤝‍👩🏻👯‍♀️🙏🏻

It’s full of love and prayer warriors for other “Drama Mama’s and Sensitive Sally’s” like me and you! 🙄 (Except, we don’t call you that. We call you your regular ol’ name because these are regular ol’ emotions that we were gifted. Emotions that should be seen as gifts.)

Anyway, stepping down from my soap box.

Click here if you want to info on my membership group.

Because we are awesome and would love to welcome you with open arms and love you like Jesus does! 😍😁😊

#breakingchains#starkeycoaching#healingfromtrauma#healingfromabuse#NotTodaySatanNotToday#princesswarriors#faithoverfear

Princess Warriors Unite!

by starkeycoaching, posted in Uncategorized

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Grab your Jesus-lovin’ Bestie and bring her along for the fun and I’ll give you each half off for the first month.

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Click here and fill out this form and let’s get ready to rock n roll!

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Finding Joy in Parenting: Overcoming Common Struggles

by starkeycoaching, posted in christian, Encouragement for Mom, Kids

Can we do both? Is it possible to actually enjoy parenting?

Parenting is tough. If we all agree on that, I challenge you to answer some of these questions:
1. Do you find yourself yelling at your spouse and kids?
2. Do you worry about traumatizing your kids?
3. Do you want to stop the generational trauma you were raised in from continually being passed on?
4. Do you constantly second (and third) guess yourself when making parenting/disciplining decisions?

If you answered “yes” to any of those, then you are in the right place! Nobody with a decent heart wants to cause harm to their kids. The truth is, nobody is perfect (thank you Lord for Your mercy and grace!) despite how much we try.
When we mess up, we fess up. Apologies go a long, long ways. Admitting you’ve done wrong and showing your kids you are truly sorry and asking them for forgiveness not only makes YOU feel better, it teaches your kids a valuable lesson or two. None of us are perfect, it’s okay to mess up, and it is freeing to ask for forgiveness.

If you are really wrestling with any and/or all of the questions mentioned above, I would LOVE to have a complimentary 60 minute session with you. Why? Because you CAN find joy in parenting those kiddos of yours. The generational junk stops with you, friend.

Ready to get started on your new, fun, enjoyable parenting future? Email me at starkeycoaching@gmail.com and we will get you on my calendar!

SHAVING IT ALL IN NOVEMBER

by starkeycoaching, posted in christian

I love to do the opposite of what is “normal.” I mean, isn’t that what the Lord has called us to do? LOL!
Instead of No-Shave November, I’m shaking it up. We’re shaving it all. But I don’t mean hair.



Mama. Motherhood is a blessing. You shouldn’t feel as if your life is in shambles and like you’re ALWAYS stressed out. That is NOT what He created you for. Momming is your #1 ministry, and I believe you can do that with grace-AND peace.

So for November, we’re shaving off the stress. All calls you get scheduled with me during November are only $27. Also shaving off the price! You can’t even take your family to eat at the Lord’s Chicken (that’s Chick-fil-A for those of you heathens who don’t know. 😛 ) for that cheap.

Family dynamics can be tough around the holidays. Let’s get CLEAR on what peace looks like and how YOU can achieve that in your home. When you are at peace within your household, all the other stresses in life just don’t hit you near as hard. Like the wild relative that’s always causing issues at holiday dinners.

Shaving stress. Shaving the price. What more can you ask for?

Ready to Pursue Peace? Click here to get you on the calendar today!

Bitter…Sweet?

by starkeycoaching, posted in christian, Encouragement for Mom, Spiritual Warfare

Have you ever read the book of Ruth? If not, go check it out in the Old Testament. There are so many lessons learned in this book and it’s one of my favorite stories. Today’s verse of the day was Ruth 1:16  “But Ruth replied, “Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. ”

As soon as I read that verse, I saw something “new” that I haven’t thought of before. Not only is Ruth an amazing role model for us, Ruth was a huge support person for Naomi. Naomi and Ruth had been through so much. Naomi was OVER IT; she even told everyone to call her Mara (bitter) instead of Naomi (sweet). I’d say she was DONE, wouldn’t you?!

Have you been to driven to that point? How many times have you been in a similar mental state; where anything and everything that could go wrong HAS?! Naomi had lost everything: her home, her husband and her children. Any woman’s worst nightmare was poor Naomi’s reality. Yet, Ruth’s love and support never wavered. She never gave up on Bitter Naomi.

I know in my life, I’ve chosen to be Bitter rather than Sweet. I can pinpoint the years I was so focused on the bad that I couldn’t see anything good.

The enemy loves to steal, kill and destroy. One of his favorite tools to use is lies. He lies to us all the time. During my lowest points, I listened mostly to his lies. I needed a Ruth to throw me a life ring and reel me back in. I ask you this…who have been the Ruth’s in your life at those hard moments? Tag your “Ruth” below and share this post with her. Tell her how much of an amazing support person she has been for you.

We weren’t meant to do this life without support! We need others to stand firm on solid ground so they can reel us back in when we are drowning in the enemy’s schemes. We need someone to speak life and truth over us. If you are without a Ruth and going through a difficult season where you NEED a Ruth, reach out to me here or email me at starkeycoaching@gmail.com . 🫶🏻

No Weapon Formed Against Us

by starkeycoaching, posted in christian, Encouragement for Mom, Spiritual Warfare, Uncategorized

Every time I hear the scripture “No weapon formed against us shall prosper”, I think of We the Kingdom’s “Don’t Tread on Me.”
That song is such a battle cry. When I’m struggling and feel the enemy trying to really weasel his way into every aspect of my life, my favorite thing is to crank up this song and sing/scream it at the top of my lungs. Guaranteed to feel better each time!
I’d like to break down this verse with y’all and hopefully offer more insight of what it actually means and how we can apply it to our lives.

Isaiah 54:17a “No weapon forged against you will prevail, and you will refute every tongue that accuses you… “

There WILL be weapons. When you became a daughter of the King, you were promised His blessings. It also means you inherit His enemies as well.

Ephesians 6:12 tells us who is behind the weapons: the rulers, authorities and the powers of this dark world, and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. It actually says that our struggle isn’t against flesh and blood BUT against that long list of evilness I just listed.

The enemy will do everything in his power to knock you off the straight and narrow. The devil ain’t after the non-believers, y’all. He is after YOU. Don’t let that scare you. It’s a good thing, because it means you’re ON the right track! James 1:2-3, “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.” The enemy is scared of YOU. I know, I can hear you laugh from here. He is afraid of all the goodness you are going to do for the Lord’s kingdom, and the devil is a sore loser.

Forged…some versions say “formed”, but NIV says “forged”. Forged is defined as something that is created, made, shaped. The devil doesn’t attack everyone in the same way. He makes the perfect weapon to try and “neutralize” you against the kingdom of God.

Now, let’s define Prevail…


So yes, while there will be weapons, none of them will be victorious against you.
What a sigh of relief, right?

“you will refute every tongue that accuses you… “

Now, on to the second snippet of the scripture… refuting. To refute simply means to disprove (or to prove that someone is wrong).

People can talk ALLLL the want about you; but the truth will ALWAYS be brought to light. (Luke 8:17) It’s just all in God’s timing and sometimes that can frustrate us mere humans so much!

I hope this breakdown helps you to understand this verse better. Soon we will talk about ways to stand firm against that sneaky snake who tries to knock us off course.


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Being Present with the Kids

by starkeycoaching, posted in Kids

I despised it. There are so many things to do and soooo little time. I work for someone else part-time. I own my own business. I volunteer. I also have a home to run. My plate is FULL.

The LAST thing I wanted to do was sit in the floor and play with dolls. First of all, I don’t wanna crawl in the floor just to play a game I’m not interested in playing. Secondly, I need to be writing this blog post or cooking dinner, or doing laundry, or the never-ending dishes. Thirdly, every time I play with them, they don’t like how I am using MY imagination and then I get bossed around. BLEGH.

Then one day it hit me in my feels. They’re only little for a few more “minutes”. One day they’re going to storm past me and slam bedroom doors as moody teenagers, refusing to talk to me about anything going on in their lives. As I contemplated these things, I realized: it doesn’t have to be that way. I see my children ALL the time. We are WITH each other, as a homeschool family, all the time, but I was not being present. I would go to my room to work on my computer/my own business. I was the moody teenager! “I need to be left alone so I can work!” “No, Mommy can’t play because she has to work.” “No, Mommy doesn’t want to play.” When I wasn’t yelling at them, I was shutting THEM out. I felt so convicted, shameful and downright awful. I decided right then and there I was going to do things differently from here on out.

I started being super silly and fun again. I do sometimes play dolls with my daughter, but generally she’s pretty agreeable to ANYthing she gets to do with mom. I’m yelling less. The kids are fighting less. We all conversate better. It’s almost like, we are a peaceful, “normal” family now. Say what!?

Putting in a little bit of specific, 1:1 time with them NOW, just puts an awesome foundation in place for your relationship with your children for the rest of your life. You are making them feel as special as they are. They are feeling your love and your CHOICE to lovingly CHOOSE your child. That’s so awesome, Mama!

If you related to any of this at all, and know it’s being put on your heart to be more present with your kids but you don’t know where to start, grab my free 5 Ways to be Present with your Kids guide right here!.