Christian Women – Starkey Coaching

Cycle of Chaos

May 9, 2025May 8, 2025 by starkeycoaching, posted in christian, Christian Women, Encouragement for Mom

If you are sick and tired of being sick and tired…do something about it.

If you don’t like how people treat you…stop allowing it.

If you don’t like how people make you feel-figure out a way to stop being around them.

We get all in our thoughts about hurting others when they don’t think twice about stomping on our own toes—or shoving a metaphorical knife in our heart.

If you don’t like something, then stop

You can be gracious and kind while placing boundaries.

You are your best advocate!

Advocate for yo’self!

Need help? I have *several* options for working with me. All very reasonable.

If you’re truly sick and tired of being sick and tired, fill out this contact form for me and let’s get you off this cycle of chaos!

Jesus: The Way, The Truth, The Life

April 10, 2025 by starkeycoaching, posted in christian, Christian Women

When WE call on JESUS

ALL things are possible.

As someone who experienced anxiety and depression for a good portion of my life due my circumstances, I know how it feels to see no light at the end of the tunnel.

You can search your entire life to find peace in the chaos.

You won’t ever find true peace til ya find Jesus.

I’ve witnessed miracles.

I’ve experienced miracles.

I’ve experienced that true peace.

Jesus saved me on earth from taking my life.

Jesus saved me from hell by taking me back from Satan.

Those who doubt the Lord’s existence; the devil even knows He is real.

It’s easy to doubt.

Even as a Believer who has seen the things and heard the stories, the enemy does still try to cause doubt.

But know what’s funny? The more I poopoo on the enemy and teach about the Armor of God, the more of an attack I experience.

Why would that happen if all of it is fake?

Do you think “the universe is mad that I’m poking at a make believe satan in a make believe spiritual realm and standing FOR a ‘make believe God’”?

Forget all the people you know who profess to be a Christian but then treat you horribly.

If you experienced church hurt, forget about those people and the things they did.

Get to a quiet place, pray for WISDOM, crack open that dusty Bible, and start reading.

If you don’t have a Bible, download the free Bible app and start reading.

Praise GOD, not people.

Praise GOD, not denominations.

Praise GOD, not churches.

Allow the TRUTH to show you the WAY to experience LIFE abundantly.

The Bible

April 3, 2025April 2, 2025 by starkeycoaching, posted in christian, Christian Women

I have and will continue to read the Bible over and over again. It’s 67 different books all in one! There are so many life lessons and it inspires me so much. The Bible is the Living WORD! It’s sooo cool, because you can read the same verse over and over again and it will always be applicable, but sometimes in different ways!
God is so cool! His Word is so cool!

Do you read the Bible? Do you struggle to read the Bible?

Daily writing prompt

What book could you read over and over again?

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Self-Love: A Biblical Perspective

April 2, 2025March 26, 2025 by starkeycoaching, posted in christian, Christian Women, Encouragement for Mom

Growing up in the south, we ALWAYS heard “love your neighbor as yourself”.

In my life, it was often put in the light of “go above and beyond for everyone and put yourself last.” That’s the exact opposite of what Jesus is saying in that verse. I was shown over and over by other’s actions that loving myself and wanting to do something for myself or something that brings me joy=selfish.

You can’t take care of others if your cup is empty. You can not do the best for others if you do not do the best for yourself. You aren’t meant to work yourself to death, day in and day out to please all the people.
God did not create us to be used and abused by ill-intended people.
God created us for relationship with Him. He loves us. He cherishes us.

Loving your neighbor as yourself means loving yourself is NOT a sin. Taking care of yourself? Also, not a sin. You have permission to love yo’self! Jesus wants us to do the best to take care of us and our temple, and THEN we can love others the same way.

Just like on the airplanes we are taught to put our oxygen mask on FIRST, and then help others. That applies to ourselves in our day to day mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health as well.

I’d love to hear in the comments below how YOU fill up your cup and show yourself some love!

Christian Creator and Online Bullying

March 31, 2025March 26, 2025 by starkeycoaching, posted in christian, Christian Women, Encouragement for Mom, Spiritual Warfare

This popped up in my brain so I thought I’d share an older FB post….

Picture it: 10PM on Valentine’s Day. Kids finally in bed and hubs and I are watching a show on Netflix.

Minding my own bidness and watching the good guys beat up the bad guys…when I get an unsolicited message.

Not only did this person wrongfully attack my character, they kinda sorta threatened me.

And before I could even respond, they blocked me.

It was bizarre and I was confused.

I thought I was being overly emotional, but then hubs asked “this person doesn’t know where we live…right…?”

And when I opened up my group text with my ladies I refer to as my Prayer Sista’s….they echoed what Hubby said.

I was triggered by this situation.

I was being gaslit and threatened which made me big mad for all the different reasons you could think of.

I WANTED to react, but instead I paused to pray and before I could RESPOND, I was blocked.

A few takeaways…

1) the devil DO be out here using people to hurt us and set us back.

2) we are capable of resisting the devil and his tactics.

3) God has given us many tools throughout His Word to combat the things of this world.

4) when HE is our foundation…things WILL be okay.

5) it’s okay to not feel okay sometimes. Just keep reminding yourself who and WHOSE you are.

If you wanna be cool and eat bugles off your fingers while resisting the devil…well.

I’ve got the perfect group for you! My free group is here. Fill this out real quick and I’ll get back with ya soon about my membership group! Would love to share virtual bugles while we learn all the tools to keep us from being swallowed up by this crazy world!

**I dont own the following image. Credit goes to the OG meme creator. The deserve it bc it’s an awesome meme!**

Morning Rituals: Embracing Nature and Peace

March 29, 2025March 26, 2025 by starkeycoaching, posted in Christian Women, Time Blocking

Now that spring is upon us, I love to take my coffee outside and sit in the sunshine. This is an easy and free way to help lower cortisol. I sit in my lawn chair with my barefeet on the grass, soaking up that morning sun. Grounding and early morning sun provide great health benefits. I use this time to thank the Lord for His creation. Listening to the birds and squirrels while watching the trees dance in the breeze is so calming. Being in nature always brings me back to Jesus. I shared this pic the other day, but I actually took it in that quiet, coffee morning time! Stillness. Peacefulness. Amazing. Pure.

Daily writing prompt

What are your morning rituals? What does the first hour of your day look like?

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Chasing the American Dream

March 27, 2025March 26, 2025 by starkeycoaching, posted in christian, Christian Women, Encouragement for Mom

“We have become perhaps the most emotionally exhausted, psychologically overworked, spiritually malnourished people in history.” -A.J. Swoboda

I agree. I see it every single day with 99% of the women I speak with.

God instructs us to “be still and know that HE is God.”

Yet all we do is hustle and bustle for the American Dream.

What about the “God Dream” for your life?

Does your life line up with what God has called you to do?

Perhaps that is the main reason you feel so much busyness and exhaustion; like you are lacking peace.

Are YOU living the God dream life or hustling for the American dream? Are you content with not? If you’re not, fill this out and i’ll be in touch with ya ASAP.

Weedy, Rooted, Thoughts

March 26, 2025 by starkeycoaching, posted in christian, Christian Women, Encouragement for Mom

Look at the roots coming off of the root.

These evil FRUITLESS raspberry plants took over a flowerbed in my backyard.

For 3 years we kept waiting for berries…none ever came.

This has been a 6 month process to pull all these stupid things up because they are SO mean and pokey. And when ya get poked real good (through the gardening gloves, FYI) that thorn causes your finger to hurt for days!

As I fought with these evil thorns, I thought of Jesus cursing the fig tree! I also realized our minds are a lot like my flowerbed-taken over by weeds.

You let one “weed” in, and those suckers will multiply faster than you can imagine. The roots will have roots, will have roots, AND will have roots.

What weedy thoughts are you allowing in your mind? Be careful to not let them take over.

Taking thoughts captive was a command from the Lord. Not just so that we have another rule, but to keep us safe. If you need help with this, get in touch with me! This is my passion. My specialty!

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No Sword without the Word?!

March 22, 2025March 26, 2025 by starkeycoaching, posted in christian, Christian Women, Spiritual Warfare

Yesterday morning I woke up with this word from Him, “you can’t have the sword without the Word.”

What is the ONLY method of OFFENSE in the Armor of God?

The sword of the Spirit aka the Word of God! ( Eph 6:10-20)

If you don’t know the Word, you aren’t fully equipped for the biggest lip sync battle of your life against the enemy that wants you miserable and lonely.

This isn’t a Debbie Downer “scare you straight” type of post.

This is a “God gave us what we NEED, and this is how you USE IT” kind of post.

Plug in to the Word so you can always have your sword sharpened.